Even very small transitions, such as getting ready to leave the house, can be difficult for young children, because they are experiencing so many new things all around! It’s no wonder that more significant transitions such as resettling can be overwhelming for little ones.

A change like this will likely mean new roles and responsibilities, making mistakes, and navigating big feelings. Embracing a sense of family togetherness can help you get through the happy and hard moments of this process with more confidence…and even joy.

These resources offer a few simple strategies that may help your family feel more secure and united in the midst of big changes.

Remember:  As you explore these resources, remember that your safety, security, and comfort are your priorities. It’s okay to focus on just making sure you and your children feel safe and calm. In those moments, a deep breath or a quiet moment may be all you need (or, sometimes, all you can do). If you still feel stressed, it’s okay to take your time and come back when you’re ready.

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    Proud Song

    Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WxFUS1Nn0Zw

    Big changes can make children feel uneasy. Learning new things is one thing that can help children feel confident. Encouraging words from caring grown-ups like you can help, too.

    Together with children, watch this video of Elmo’s dad telling him all the ways in which he’s proud of his son. Then, talk about times you feel proud of your child, for example:

    • When she works hard to learn new things, such as new words.
    • When he has a positive attitude even on difficult days.
    • When she is kind to siblings, friends, and other adults in her life.


    Ask your child, “What makes you feel proud of yourself?”

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    Understanding and Explaining Change

    Your family has already experienced many changes, and change may continue to be a big part of your family’s story. Consider these ideas to help your family understand and cope with change.

    Change is a part of life.

    We often look at change as a bad thing, but during big transitions, especially ones that are out of our control, it may help to remember that change is a natural part of life. You might talk with children about other things that change, and how those changes are good or helpful:

    • When a plant grows from a seed, we see that change can be beautiful.
    • When the seasons change throughout the year, we can look forward to new things, like swimming in warm weather or warm drinks in cold weather.
    • When the colors on a traffic light change, traffic runs smoothly—change can be helpful!

    Then, talk about some changes you’ve experienced or may experience soon. What good things happened (even very small ones)? What good things are you looking forward to?

    Grief is a part of change.

    Feelings of grief—including sadness, anger, and confusion—are natural when things change. You may be mourning the loss of your home, routines, familiar places and things, or the death of a loved one. It’s normal to feel sad or mad about what’s happened, and unsure about what might happen in the future.

    Sometimes children’s grief is overlooked by adults because children may appear to be “fine” as they continue to play and laugh. But every member of the family grieves differently and at their own pace. Grief may go away briefly, return, and then go away again. Even when children seem okay, you can remind them that…

    • It’s okay to feel big feelings—such as sadness or anger—and even many different feelings at the same time.
    • We can miss how things used to be, and at the same time, enjoy life now.
    • It’s okay to be happy when something good happens or to laugh when something is funny.
    • When we do feel sad, mad, or anxious, there are things we can do to help ourselves feel better.


    Change helps us grow.

    While it can be uncomfortable and painful, there can be beauty in change, too. Change brings the opportunity to learn important lessons and gain skills that can help us face future challenges. For instance, we may learn to advocate for ourselves or our family members, become more comfortable asking for help, or grow in compassion.

    Big changes often help shape us for the better. You might think of some examples of how big changes have helped you learn and grow and share them with your children. Can children think of ways they’ve grown?

    You might ask your child to repeat after you: “I am changing, learning, and growing every day.”

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    What Changes What Stays the Same

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    It can be comforting to remember that not everything changes. Remind children that even though many things have changed and will continue to change, some things will always stay the same.

    Together, list examples:

    • I am still me.
    • We are still together.
    • We can still laugh and smile together.
    • We can still dream of the future.


    There are routines that can stay the same, too—you can say hello to the sun and goodnight to the moon, you can sing the same song as you go outside together every morning, and you can tell your family that you love them.

    Print this page and complete it together.