Parents and caregivers are part of a team. They share a goal to raise kids in safe spaces with lots of love and care. The key to being teammates is good communication! A close connection between caregivers and parents helps children stay safe, feel secure, and enjoy themselves! There are lots of easy, playful ways for grown-ups to communicate with each other, and to get kids involved, too.
The resources in this bundle will…
- Explore the importance of clear communication between parents and caregivers,
- Offer strategies to nurture positive, consistent connections between grown-ups,
- And provide playful activities to bond with and build kids’ skills.
For providers: The last section in this bundle provides related resources and facilitation tips for you to use with FFN providers and parents in your setting.
In this video, provider to family, friend, and neighbor caregivers, Zoraima Rosario-Rolón chats with Sesame mom of two, Jen Sereni. Together, they discuss practical strategies for establishing and nurturing routines for clear, consistent communication.
As you watch the video, think about your own communication routines. What works well? What could improve? Can you try any of the strategies they mentioned?
A Caring Connection
Feeling comfortable and familiar with your child’s caregiver is so important for your peace of mind. So is knowing what kind of day your little one had. That will help you make sense of her behavior back at home (for instance, if she seems tired, you might want to know if she napped less than usual today).
You can use these conversation starters to develop a closer connection with your child’s caregiver, and learn more about what your child was up to while you were away.
Try to have a quick catch-up session when you pick up your child, or ask caregivers if they can send you a text or e-mail update about the day’s events.
Great conversations lead to great collaboration. And when you set up good conversation routines at the beginning of your relationship with parents and caregivers, it makes it easier to have more difficult conversations that might come up later.
Also, when children see grownups having warm and respectful conversations, they learn to have them too!
Positive communication starts with great listening
Listening is the foundation of great communication. It helps you gather helpful information about children and families. Plus, listening shows that you value and respect what others have to say.
To be a great listener, be sure to:
- Assume positive intentions. You all want the best for the children in your care. Even if you disagree on what you are talking about, never forget that you agree on why you are talking: to help children thrive.
- Listen actively. Pay attention to what is being said. Nod, say “uh-huh” and “I see”, and stay focused.
- Pay attention to words and feelings. Don’t just listen to what a parent or caregiver is saying, pay attention to how they are saying it.
- Let the other person finish. Don’t rush to speak. Even if a parent or caregiver seems like they have finished talking, they might have more to say.
- Check for understanding. Before you offer your own thoughts or opinions, make sure you clearly understand what you have heard. Summarize what the parent or caregiver has said by using phrases that start with “What I heard you say was…” or “Am I correct that you’re feeling…”
- Learn more with open-ended questions. Dig deeper by asking questions that can’t be answered with a simple “yes” or “no”. Try starting questions with “Tell me more about…” or “What do you think it means that…”
How you communicate
Every conversation you have with parents and caregivers is an opportunity to build a stronger partnership. How you speak and what you say will help strengthen that collaboration.
To communicate well, be sure to:
- Be open and honest Parents and caregivers want to learn what you have to say about their children. Give accurate information about things that you directly observed.
- Notice and share positives. There are always good things to say about a child, and it is helpful for parents and caregivers to hear what is going well during the day.
- Pause before speaking. Be intentional with your words. Think about both what you are going to say, and how you are going to say it before speaking.
- Ask for input from parents. Parents and caregivers have a deep knowledge of their children, so ask for their ideas. This is especially important when discussing challenges because it puts you all on the same team. You might ask, “Have you noticed this behavior at home? What strategies have been helpful?”
- Talk about concerns when the arise. Parents and caregivers want to work with you, so take care of small issues now before they become big issues later.
There is no one right way to communicate
There are lots of different ways to communicate. Individuals have different comfort levels, and different cultures might have a variety of customs when it comes to communication.
To respect differences, be sure to:
- Follow parents’ and caregivers’ lead. If someone seems consistently uncomfortable with the way you are communicating, try a different approach. And you can always ask how someone wants to communicate.
- Pay attention to body language. A person’s culture might have certain rules and expectations about eye contact, touching, gender roles, greetings and titles, and more. Pay attention to how your parents and caregivers are behaving, and respect their approach.
- Take concerns seriously, even if you don’t share or understand them. Parents and caregivers might express thoughts or concerns that don’t make complete sense to you. Even if you disagree, make sure to treat those feelings with respect and empathy.
Finally, use all the tools you have to communicate. Use email, texts, and phone calls. With some parents, you might schedule more formal meetings. For others, you might rely on quick daily check-ins or written reports.
And definitely communicate about communication. Ask parents and caregivers if they are getting the information they need, and what you might do to improve communication overall.
Tips and Tools for Providers
You can use the resources in this bundle to host a workshop for parents and FFN caregivers in your setting. Consider the following ideas and facilitation tips to provide a high-quality, informative, and playful experience!
- Begin by watching the “chat” video together with parents and/or FFNs. Invite participants to share what they find challenging about communication, and what’s helped them in the past. Talk about the strategies mentioned in the video. How could they apply them to their own relationships?
- Print and share the Communication is Collaboration article and reference it for more ideas and discussion prompts.
- Finally, if you have more time, introduce more resources from SSIC.org that support the theme, such as:
For even more learning on this topic, check out our Circles of Care course!