Big changes like going back to school can bring big feelings, too. When you help children express and understand their emotions, you’re helping set them up for success in so many ways. And when you communicate about your feelings as a family, you can work to overcome problems, strengthen relationships, and just have fun together. In simple everyday ways, your family can learn to handle feelings, big and small.

The resources in this bundle will…

  • Help you introduce feelings vocabulary to your child,
  • offer strategies to help everyone in your family talk about their feelings, and
  • provide ideas for expressing and managing big feelings.
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    We Can Communicate Our Feelings

    Big changes—even positive, exciting adventures—mean big feelings, too. Talking about our feelings can help us better manage them and build resilience.

    Naming our feelings

    Before we can talk about our feelings, it helps to know what they’re called. You can do activities together to help young children identify different emotions.

    • Look at people in photo albums, magazines, or books. Notice facial expressions and body language. Ask, “what do you think she’s feeling?”
    • Use your facial expressions and body language to play feelings charades. Act out different feelings and take turns guessing.
    • Keep a list of words that describe feelings on the fridge. When children learn new words, add them to the list!

    It can be hard for adults to know what our feelings are called, too! Especially in times like these, when so much is happening to and around us, it’s important to be intentional about noticing and naming our own feelings. Sesame Street advisor and professor of psychiatry Dr. Stephen J. Cozza encourages parents to try to first understand how they think and feel, and then help kids. He offers some other great insights and advice in this webinar for parents.

    Communicating with each other

    Talking together is one way to help kids manage their feelings. Help your child feel comfortable coming to you with his big feelings by reassuring him often that you love and care about him. Remind him that your family is a team, and a team works best by talking and listening a lot. You might begin conversations by telling him about your own feelings and how you’re trying to manage them. Say, “I’m feeling frustrated, so I’m going to stretch my body for five minutes. Do you want to stretch with me?”

    Try these other feelings-friendly phrases, too:

    • Feelings come and go.
    • It’s okay to feel _______. Everyone feels _______ sometimes.
    • How big is your feeling? What color is it? What shape?
    • You can have many feelings at the same time.
    • When I feel ______, I like to (draw a picture, read a book, listen to music, take a walk, etc.).

    Many ways to manage

    When you talk together with your child about her big feelings, you provide a secure foundation for her to overcome challenges. You can give her even more tools to help her express and manage her big feelings. Try these ideas:

    Remember that we each have our own preferences when it comes to self-expression. And we can try different strategies depending on how big our feeling is. It’s okay to mix it up and try new things.

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    I Can Feel Safe-


    Creating a “safe place” is one way to cope with big feelings. In this video, Elmo explains and celebrates the safety and security of his blanket fort.

    • Before watching: Explain to children that Elmo was feeling scared and sad and needed a safe, cozy space.
    • While you watch: As you watch, notice how Elmo describes his feelings and his feel-better strategy.
    • After watching: Ask children if they’ve ever felt like Elmo. What helps them feel better? Talk about what kind of safe places children might create for themselves.
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    My Feelings Journal

    Download printable

    Journaling can help children (and grown-ups!) reflect on and work through their feelings. Use this printable page to create a feelings journal for you and your child.

    1. Print out seven feelings journal pages (for one week) and put them in a folder or clip them together. You might make a cover, too.
    2. Help kids complete a page every day. They may need help thinking of what to draw or write. You might ask, for instance, “When you felt sad today, where did you feel it in your body?” or, “Can you draw what your feeling looks like?”
    3. At the end of the week, look through the journal together and talk about the different emotions children felt. End with a big hug.