Big Bird’s struggling after a confusing and scary thing happened, and Alan notices his friend’s having a hard time before Big Bird even says a word. As you watch this video together with kids, notice how Alan acts. He:

  • is supportive, patient, comforting, and a good listener
  • lets Big Bird know that he’s seen, heard, and cared for

The presence of a caring adult makes all the difference in the life of a child coping with the effects of trauma. Like Alan does in the video, you can communicate messages to kids such as:

  • You’re not alone. I’m here for you.
  • I’m listening to you. You matter.
  • What you say, feel, and think is important to me.
  • Let me help you put some words to your feelings.
  • Sometimes problems are too big to handle yourself. It’s smart to ask for help.
  • Let’s find a way to help you do or think about things you love.
  • Thank you for trusting me.
  • I’m interested in you and what’s happening inside you.
  • There are other adults who care for you, too.
  • It’s great to share a special time together.